I don’t care if you are eight or eighty, you want to know, don’t you? If you do then forget what you have been told by Mommy and Daddy. Don’t even think about that last introduction you received; “ I’d like you to meet my beautiful friend …….”. It might all be true but you have to weigh the bias. No body wants an ugly child or friend. (stop, put down the stones – your not ugly).

There is more to being attractive to men than being drop-dead gorgeous. Besides, very few men can handle drop-dead gorgeous. They just babble something stupid, their face gets red and they run away. (Hint to men – don’t run away, she has no one else to talk to anyway.)

Let’s Take Inventory

You’ve got all the basic body parts like a head and a torso. Good we are off to a strong start. If you have home grown or store bought teeth put that in the plus column. If you dribble put that in the minus column. Are you able to make eye contact without giggling? Yes? That’s excellent, another plus for you. And last but certainly not least how about a smile. Can you manage that? It’s a really big plus. Add up your score. Anything less than three out of four and you can stop reading right here. You are not attractive to men.

For Those With A Passing Score

Men are simple creatures. They seek acceptance from women even if the circumstance is not romantic. Any possibility of rejection is traumatic to them and they must ignore or dismiss the cause of the emotional trauma. I know, I know, it’s crazy but that is the nature of the beast. I didn’t make them, God did.

So, what do we now know? That’s right! If you can make a man feel accepted immediately you are attractive to him. You will now find him very willing to talk and pass a few pleasantries and who knows, he might even move on to intimate subjects like the weather.

Don’t believe me? Then why if you are sitting in front of Starbucks with Fido does he pet your dog and talk to it before he says anything to you. You got it! He  knows the dog will accept him immediately.

Repeat Performances

If you didn’t scare them a way the first time, do they stop to talk to you the next time you meet? If they are attracted to you they will and that means you have to do the right thing. No, no, you don’t sleep with them yet! I mean you have to look pleased to see them. Remember the smile. Forget the smile and you can forget men. They are fragile creatures and require constant reassurance. If you can remember to smile men will be attracted to you in droves.

You will know it when you see it

Attraction is like pornography. Defining it is difficult, but I assure you that you will know it when you see it.

• They remember your name (don’t laugh, men only remember what is important to them)
• Men seek you out in a crowded room and they do not bring a handsome friend
• They are interested in what you have to say (don’t believe it – make them talk about themselves. It’s all about the approval/acceptance thing)
• They tell you how nice you look sometimes (make sure you do look nice)
• They ask you how you have been (They want you to ask them about themselves)
• They find ways to extend the meeting (can I buy you a drink, would you like to dance, would you like to see my etchings)

Does this mean that every guy has to have a thing for you or if you go a month without meeting someone new, that men are not attracted to you? No, absolutely not. Even drop dead gorgeous has dry spells.

Only remember to smile and make them comfortable and I assure you that you are attractive to men.

PS Keep the spinach out of your teeth