We all know Men live on Mars and women quite frankly live here on Earth. Men are so far off base when it comes to sex and a meaningful connection its a wonder married men and women alike, share the common issue of bonding and sex.

I have found that these actions are the worse possible things to do when you have been turned down for sex and a few things men screw up when they actually get them some lovin.

10. Do not compare your woman to an ex. In our eyes, all women are skanks. We don’t want to imagine anyone with our man but us! When you throw in the ex girlfriend, ex wife, even your ex fling. It does nothing for us but get us upset and sometimes more so self conscience about ourselves. We could care less if in past relationships what the two of you did or what she may have done to keep things spicy in the bedroom that was such a thrill. Obviously it wasn’t enough to make a long lasting relationship, she is after all the ex, the past…keep her/them there! This rule certainly applies to women as well. Leave your ex’s where they belong, in the past.

9. Did you just bribe me for sex? Are you guys serious? Promises of gifts or being nicer to your woman if she satisfies you in bed makes us feel like one thing, A WHORE! Now in cases where role playing is a part of the overall excitement of your love making that of course is fine. However, if women are not in the mood, promises of being nicer, being in a better mood, taking us shopping are things you should be doing anyway, not just when you want some “nookie!” won’t change her mind. It just tells her your actions are based on her desire to have or not have sex with you.

8. Threats of getting it elsewhere. Ok, you “da man” and the woman in your life should be lucky enough to be the one to please you. Therefore, if she doesn’t feel like it, telling her you can always just get it some place else is simply a smack in the face. It says, I can have anyone, but I am with you because you give me sex when I want it. Any woman caught up with a man who will easily toss you aside for someone “easier” should just let that man go get it easy. You are worth being worked for!

7. Always expecting something. So you just went down on your girl giving her the most pleasurable oral experience in a long time. As she is basking in the delight of such a wonderful feeling, its ruined with …OK YOUR TURN!!! Women like feeling as if our feelings are the most important thing. Taking the time to satisfy your woman especially orally will certainly be greatly rewarded in return, but not when you expect it, or demand it, because you just did it. This tells your woman it really wasn’t about her at all, but it was more about you and getting what you want. If you just keep your mouth shut, you will find, she will open hers and certainly return the favor without being asked.

6. Using guilt? Then you must be one of those men who didn’t mature since high school. “Oh baby, come on, its been sooo long.” or “Baby, I am getting blue balls here.” Any lame ass attempt to make your woman feel guilty that she isn’t in the mood, will not make her mood change any faster! Women do not think of sex as often as men. Quite frankly we simply don’t have the time. Being a mom, working, keeping up with the household chores, etc, weighs heavily on a woman’s mind almost constantly. Finding ways to make her forget the stresses of the day will win her over much faster than whining or making her feel guilty.

5. Settling. You have tried getting your woman to agree to sex with no luck. So then you try settling for less. “Well if you aren’t gonna have sex with me, at least give me a blow-job.” This again reverts back to what the man wants without any care as to what she wants or why she maybe doesn’t want it.

4. Two can play this game. Never , ever, say no to sex with your woman simply because she has said no to you. You know you want it, you know you been asking for it. But because she turned you down for whatever reason, now you think you have the upper hand by not showing any interest when she does. This is again a high school mentality. If you want to be with a woman, you need to act like a man. When a woman finally feels confident and ready to be with her man and he snubs her because of previous times of being turned down; this tells the woman its not about feelings of love and being together. It shows you are acting out of spite and not taking advantage of a moment when you actually didn’t have to ask or beg for it.

3. Jumping right in. The mood is right, shes laying on the bed waiting for you to make love to her and you jump in there without any foreplay, get your rocks off and roll over for a nap. And you wonder why it gets harder and harder for you to get your woman to say yes to sex. Simply agreeing to sex doesn’t make it all happen. Playing with each other, teasing one another and anticipating the moment makes it all an overwhelmingly wonderful experience.

2. What are you a lesbian? Accusing your woman of playing on the other team will not butter her up in the slightest. Again, women have tons of things on their mind. In order to be in the moment and want to have sex, you need to take your woman out of that mentality. Make her forget everything on her mind but you. This is just the same when a man accusses his woman of being with another man. It makes for a more tense situation and often times backfires when the woman wonders….is he cheating on me???

1. There is a time and a place. Being flirty while you await the opportunity to make love to your woman is fun. However, pushing the situation or putting her under the spotlight in front of your friends or in public for her lack of interest will be the best way not to get any lovin from your Misses for a long time.

Woman love sex, sometimes we ourselves love a good old fashion screw. But just like anything else, if you want the best time and experience, you have to work at it a bit. Being insulting, threatening or degrading are not ways to win your woman over for sex.