1.    An unpopular boy or girl from your class asks you to have dinner with him/her. How do you respond?

• Refuse the invitation, giving reason about not being interested in unpopular people.
• Make an excuse, saying you are too sick.
• Accept the invitation because you cannot face the embarrassment of saying no.
• Accept the invitation, determined to know the other person.

2.    You buy something in a store and the cashier hands you too much cash. What do you do?

• Explain the error and return the money.
• Keep the money.
• Donate the money to charity.
• Speak to the manager and tell him about the incompetence of the staff.

3.    Your parents arranged a family reunion on a weekend and want you to attend it. But you have already arranged to go out with your friends. What do you do?

• Have an argument with your parents about your rights as an individual to choose what you will do.
• Go off with your friends and face your parents later.
• Have a family discussion where you try to persuade your parents to let you go with your friends and go to the reunion next time.
• Ring up your relatives and lie to them that the meeting is cancelled.

4.    Your mother does not like one of your friends and tell you not to have anything to do with that person. How do you show that this friend is not a bad influence on you?

• Invite your friend over to meet your family.
• Constantly tell your mother about your friend’s good points.
• Ignore your mother’s comments.
• Drop your friend.

5.    You are standing at a counter waiting to be served, when someone pushes in front of you and demands to be served first. How do you react?

• Walk away and decide to come back later.
• Push the other person out of the way.
• Say that you have been waiting long before that person.
• Tell he person to learn some manners.

6.    You want to go to a particular movie, but your friend wants to go to a different movie. Since your friend has chosen the last three movies, you think it’s your turn to choose. What do you do?

• Explain that it is your turn to choose a movie.
• Say nothing and go to the movie your friend wants to go to.
• Walk off and go to the movie you want to go to by yourself.
• Tell your friend that he/she is selfish and does not deserve you as a friend.

Now write down the score for each answer.

Add up your scores.

Finally, check what your total score reveals about yourself:

Up to 9

You always insist on getting your way, regardless of weather you hurt anyone’s feelings. Some would call you obstinate and stubborn. Whatever the truth, you are unlikely to take anyone’s advice. Try to be more understanding and less hasty. You new aim should be “think before you act”.

10-18

 You are honest with yourself and others and you try not to hurt other people’s feelings. But you tend to tell white lies in order to get your way. Sometimes you would rather not stand up for your rights and allow other to walk over you. You need to balance your needs and other people’s needs.

19 or more

You seem to have found the right balance between ensuring your needs are met and expressing your needs maturely. You are thoughtful about how you approach people. They are unlikely to be upset by your forthright manner. You probably have many friends who respect you.

That’s it…and please tell me your result as well, mine was 19 (honest). Hope you liked it!